SEX: Getting Back into it after a Major Life Change

There is no denying that sex can be quite vulnerable. And when you're going through major life changes, it can be difficult to get back into the swing of your normal sex life. The BDSM chamber doesn't hit the same way when you're recovering from a major surgery. Or maybe you feel slightly less sexy after starting a new medication. And even with supportive sexual partners, there can be personal battles and new insecurities that come to light with a major life change. That being said, sex is imperative to our mental and physical health and a healthy sex life is something to strive for no matter what stage of life you're in.

Here are a few guiding tips to help you transition back into a healthy, active sex life post-whatever it is you're going through so that you can get back to your WET lube collection in no time!

Menopause

Menopause marks a significant milestone in a woman's life. Alongside physical changes, such as hot flashes and vaginal dryness, it can also impact libido and sexual satisfaction. However, understanding these changes and exploring new ways to experience pleasure can help reignite intimacy. Communication with your partner is key—share your feelings, desires, and concerns openly to foster understanding and support. There will be hormonal shifts at this stage of life and with that, embrace your desire or ignite it with sexual exploration. Things such as lubricants can also help with this transition period. If sex feels a little more dry than usual, there's nothing wrong with letting your partner know and setting up a subscription for your favorite WET lube so that it will always be within reach when the mood strikes.

Childbirth

The journey of childbirth is transformative, both physically and emotionally. After giving birth, many women experience changes in their bodies, ranging from hormonal fluctuations to physical discomfort. It's essential to give yourself time to heal and rediscover your body's capabilities. Engage in open conversations with your partner and yourself about your needs and desires, and explore intimacy at a pace that feels comfortable for both of you. Your body just performed a goddamn miracle and it'll take time for your body and mind to recover - don't put pressure on yourself to perform the way you may have before.

Vasectomy

A vasectomy can bring relief from the worry of unintended pregnancy, but it may also raise questions about sexual satisfaction and masculinity. It's crucial for both partners to discuss any concerns openly and address any misconceptions or anxieties. Remember that intimacy goes beyond penetrative sex—focus on emotional connection, intimacy, and mutual pleasure to deepen your bond. You can also view vasectomy as a declaration sexual freedom and empowerment. With the worry of pregnancy lifted, one is able to dive headfirst into the pleasures of uninhibited sex which is only fueled by the slippery sensation of WET lube.

Breast Surgery

Undergoing breast surgery, whether for cosmetic or medical reasons, can impact body image and self-esteem. It's essential to prioritize self-care and self-compassion during this time. Communicate openly with your partner or your community about any physical discomfort or emotional struggles you may be experiencing. Rediscover intimacy by exploring non-genital touch and finding new ways to connect intimately. Remember that healing from surgery takes time. By giving yourself time to heal and being honest about where you're at, you'll eventually get back to a harmonious sex lifestyle that will suit your desires and needs and foster a newfound confidence.

Starting New Medication

Starting new medication can have various effects on libido and sexual function. Some medications may increase arousal, while others may decrease it. WET has an entire guide on mental health and sex which you can read here. It's crucial to discuss any changes in sexual desire or function with your healthcare provider. Be sure you are aware of any potential side effects and strategize a game plan for how you will deal with those side effects if present. Think of it as fun and important foreplay. Open communication with your partner is essential in navigating these changes together and finding alternative ways to maintain intimacy.

Grief and Mourning

Grieving the loss of a loved one can profoundly impact intimacy and desire. It's essential to give yourself and your partner permission to grieve in your unique ways and to seek support when needed. Grief can strike at times when we least expect it. Allow intimacy to evolve naturally, understanding that it may ebb and flow during the grieving process. Focus on nurturing your emotional connection and finding comfort in your community. This connection may inspire a sexual connection or epiphany.

Gender Reassignment

Intimacy after gender reassignment may involve exploring new facets of sexuality and identity. If you are a partner of someone who is undergoing this process, remember that transitioning can be challenging and isolating. Seeking support from trusted friends, therapists, or support groups can provide invaluable guidance, validation, and solidarity. Remember that you're not alone in this journey, and there are resources available to help you navigate the complexities of intimacy and identity after gender reassignment.

For both partners, it's essential to approach intimacy with curiosity, compassion, and an open mind. Communication is paramount—discuss desires, boundaries, and concerns openly and without judgment. Experiment with new forms of intimacy, such as sensual massage, mutual exploration, and verbal affirmation, to deepen your connection and pleasure.

Embracing Change Together

Life changes can present challenges to intimacy, but they also offer opportunities for growth and deeper connection within our relationships. By fostering open communication, practicing patience, and understanding, and exploring new ways to experience pleasure, couples and individuals can navigate these transitions and emerge stronger than ever before.

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